Archive | August, 2014

Encouraging your Children to Follow Their Dreams

23 Aug

It’s a Friday night and I am in bed with a raging sinus infection. For my amusement, I am surfing through You Tube looking for some good musical tunes to listen to. Having grown up in the suburbs of Philadelphia in the ’70’s, I am very happy to come across a clip of one of my favorite groups, Hall and Oates doing a cover of She Used to be My Girl by the O’Jays, another great Philly band. As I am watching this, I am just amazed at how great this video is, and how I feel bad that Hall & Oates have never really gotten the respect they deserve from the music world. Abandoned Luncheonette is my favorite album by them. When they were first starting out, they didn’t get a record deal right away. They met a guy named Tony Mattola, you know the guy who headed Sony Music, when he was just starting out. He saw their talent and got them a record deal, and the rest is history.

There is a point to my ramblings here. Through encouragement, Daryl Hall and John Oates achieved great success through lots of encouragement from their families to never give up on their dreams. They could have given up and said it’s too hard, I’m just going to be like everyone else and get a regular 9-5 job. They didn’t do that. They followed their dreams.

I come from a musically inclined family on my mother’s side. My grandmother sang opera. My grandfather played piano. As a child, I was always singing and dancing. I can remember riding around  with my grandfather on my father’s side in his country squire station wagon around the Main Line listening to WIP-AM, which at the time had a top 40 radio format. My dog Hansey, a dachshund, would slobber and bark along with me as we sang along in the car. I knew in my heart I always wanted to sing. As I got older, I performed in musicals for local theatres, as well as school plays in high school. By my junior year, I decided I wanted to go to school to sing in New York City. That was my dream. That dream was soon crushed.

When applying for schools, my father told me that pursuing a musical career was in his words, “Ridiculous. Why don’t you pursue something sensible, like a business degree. It’s too competitive. You’ll never make it”. Eventually, I gave in and got my business degree. I did well for myself. Then I got married and have a family. While I’m happy I had the career I did, I look back now but can’t help but wonder “what if…..”

My daughter has been blessed with my genes when it comes to singing. She chooses not to take advantage of it. I try to encourage her to sing with me on occasion, and whenever I am listening to a music video and singing too loud, she will come shut the door on me because I am too loud! I keep encouraging her in all her interests. She plays tennis and golf, and I always tell her to work hard at it because you can reach your dreams if you really want it. I don’t know where she wants to take the tennis or golf, or if maybe she might decide she does want to pursue a musical career, or she wants to be the next Bill Gates and Steve Jobs. The point is she should know that the sky is the limit, and you should always reach for the stars. Anything is possible! That is my life lesson for tonight.

I will leave you with this great Hall & Oates  You Tube video I mentioned above.



The Dark Side of Crowd Funding and Social Media

10 Aug

This has to be the quickest investigative report on record.  As I had mentioned in my earlier blog post, I would be doing an experiment regarding crowd funding in light of recent stories of frivolous crowd funding sites where people had raised money for ridiculous causes.

I set up an account  I figured I’d post for a week, where I stated I was looking to buy a puppy for my daughter. I stated my case as to why I felt we were deserving. Please note my daughter is getting a dog no matter what as a graduation present this year, but I figured that was the most plausible cause I could think of. I tweeted out the link. Within the first hour of posting the link, I started receiving the most vile comments you could imagine. Some of the more benign comments such as “your kid is a spoiled brat” “rot in hell,  dog hater” that I hate rescue dogs I can post here. One that was particularly frightening and was the last straw, experiment or no, was that they knew where we lived and they would let their pit bull loose when they saw my daughter outside. My daughter has been in tears and wonders why someone would attack us in such a horrible way.

Needless to say, the site is being removed. This was only supposed to be a silly little experiment to see what would happen & if anything would be contributed to a worthwhile cause as opposed to an egg sandwich which to date has raised $540. I guess the lesson to be learned is my daughter now knows that sometimes the world is not a nice place. I told the breeder I have been working with about our ordeal. She told me she is not surprised at all. I just can’t wait until graduation, and the smile on my daughter’s face when she gets her puppy. She has been very patient (has waited 8 years)!


Why do you Donate to GoFundMe?

8 Aug

In light of all the recent publicity of high profile stories involving crowd funding sites such as and, I decided to do a little experiment of my own to see why people do or don’t donate to certain causes and others are overlooked.

Just today, I saw an article on how a man set up a Kickstarter site to save the egg sandwich in New York City. As Francisco Bernard from Fox 5 in New York states in his article, Joseph Checkler, who works for the Wall Street Journal does not like the way the egg sandwich is made in the city and wants to deliver instructions to restaurants on how to properly make the sandwich. As of 8/8, he has received 31 backers and has raised $470 for his cause. Here is the link to his site:

As an experiment, I decided to create my own site for my cause. My daughter has been asking me for a dog for years. We have done our research and have decided on a Vizsla. We have chosen this dog due to health reasons on my part. I have severe allergies and for those reasons I can not have a shelter dog. We considered it, but it is just not an option. For the past few years, I have been in two serious car accidents, and my husband’s appendix burst. We have had unbelievable medical bills to pay. For that reason, we have delayed getting her a dog. We have finally put some money aside and will get her the dog (hopefully as a graduation present this year), but I am posting this to see what will happen and to see if people will contribute. It will be a sacrifice for us to get the dog, but it is so important that we do it.

Here is the link to my site:

I will post results as they come in. Please feel free to tell us your thoughts!


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